Everyone talks about pregnancy.
Everyone talks about the birth.
But not enough people talk about the chapter that comes after — the fourth trimester.
The fourth trimester is those first 12 weeks after your baby is born.
It’s a season of rawness, beauty, learning, and healing — for both you and your little one.
And if you’re finding it harder than you expected, please hear this: you are not doing it wrong. This is just how it feels sometimes.
Here’s what I wish every new mama could hear:
🌸 You Are Healing Too
While everyone’s meeting your new baby, remember: you just did something incredible.
Whether you had a vaginal birth, a C-section, or anything in between — your body is healing, your mind is adjusting, and your heart is stretching to hold a love bigger than anything you've ever known.
Healing isn't linear.
Some days you’ll feel strong. Other days, just getting dressed will be a huge victory (even if its yesterdays clothes still with baby spit up on).
Both days are brave. Both days are enough.
You deserve rest. You deserve nourishment. You deserve gentleness.
You are recovering, not just from birth, but from months of growing a whole new life inside you.
Let yourself slow down. Let yourself be cared for.
🌸 It’s Okay If It Doesn't Feel "Perfect"
The fourth trimester is messy and emotional.
You might feel incredible love and overwhelming exhaustion at the very same time.
You might wonder if you're doing everything wrong. (You aren’t.)
You might look at your tiny baby and feel joy so fierce it scares you. and you might look at them and expect to feel that but don't yet (that's okay too...its all new)
You might miss your old self while falling in love with the new one you're becoming.
All of that is normal.
Motherhood isn't about having every answer. It's about showing up, messy hair, teary eyes, full heart — and loving anyway.
The beauty of these days is in their imperfection.
🌸 Bonding Takes Time
Not every mama feels that instant, movie-scene bond with their baby — and that’s okay.
Sometimes bonding is a slow, steady journey, not a lightning bolt moment.
It grows through sleepy feeds in the early morning.
Through whispered lullabies.
Through tiny fingers wrapping around yours.
Trust that love is building — strong, unshakable — even when you feel unsure.
You and your baby are getting to know each other.
It’s a relationship like any other: it takes time, and that's something beautiful in itself.
🌸 You Are The Best Mama For Your Baby
There will be days when you doubt yourself.
There will be moments when you question every choice you make.
But here’s the truth: your baby chose you.
They don't need Pinterest-perfect crafts or organic homemade meals every day.
They need your voice, your heartbeat, your arms wrapped around them.
They need you — exactly as you are.
You are enough. You have always been enough. You always will be enough.
🌸 Let People Help You
It’s easy to feel like you have to do everything yourself.
But motherhood was never meant to be a solo journey.
Saying yes to help — a hot meal, a nap, someone holding the baby while you shower — isn't weakness. It's wisdom.
Letting people show up for you gives you the space to heal, to breathe, to be more present for your little one.
You deserve support just as much as your baby does. You deserve to be cared for too.
🌸 Tiny Joys Matter
In the middle of sleepless nights and endless nappies, don’t forget to celebrate the tiny joys:
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The first gummy smile.
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The way their fingers wrap around yours.
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The way they settle when they hear your voice.
Those moments might feel small now, but they are stitching themselves into your heart forever.
Slow down. Soak them in.
There’s no rush to "bounce back" or be anything other than what you are: a mother doing her best.
At Nutmeg & Bentley, we believe the fourth trimester deserves as much celebration as the birth itself.
The soft clothes, the personalised keepsakes, the tiny handmade touches — they’re not just for the baby; they're for you too.
They're a reminder that you are important, you are doing something extraordinary, and you deserve to feel seen and loved every step of the way.
Our pieces are made to wrap your little one in softness, warmth, and love — just like you’re doing for each other every single day.
So if you are deep in the fourth trimester right now, hear this:
🌸 You are not alone.
🌸 You are doing an amazing job.
🌸 You are becoming something beautiful.
Be gentle with yourself, Mama. You're doing the most important work in the world. 💛